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Do a Google search for âdates from hellâ, and you just might crash their servers. There are tons of websites devoted to subject. One described a guy who talked about his ex-girlfriend all night, then drove by his exâs house a few times because he was âconcerned for her welfareâ. Another told the story of a girl who made another date for later that evening, over her cell phone, during dinner. Iâm sure you have a few war stories of your own. You know what I think?
There are no bad dates.
âNo bad dates??â youâd tell me. âYouâve obviously never spent an evening with Mr/Ms. X who thought the silverware was speaking to themâ¦in Klingonâ. Maybe not, but so long as you were not in any danger or got hurt in any way, it wasnât that bad. It probably only lasted a few hours, and you must have found some humor in that person across the table, waiting for the mothership. Cross Captain Kirk off of your list and chalk it up to a learning experience.
The important thing is to not get discouraged and give up on dating completely. Stick with it, and keep looking to make that connection. Here are three quick tips:
Release yourself from expectation.
Never âexpectâ your date to be âthe oneâ, no matter how cute or nice they are initially. You set the date up to be a disaster by your unrealistic expectations. It creates undue pressure and leads you on a scavenger hunt for faults in the other person. Relax, enjoy the process, and donât focus on an âend resultâ that you have invented for yourself.
It's all about attitude! Your mindset is what determines the quality of any experience. If you approach your date with a good attitude, there are no bad dates. Each experience is a step towards finding the person that is right for you.
Go out on as many dates as possible.
The way to that right person is through a lot of not-the-right persons. The more dates you have, the more opportunities you make for yourself. Mr. or Ms. Right will not come knocking on your door while you are watching TV. Date, date and then date some more, the process is the answer.
Meet many people that might be possible dates.
A positive dating attitude gives you endless opportunities to meet the right person.
Donât rule out any method or avenue, and try them all: speed date, people at the gym, through friends, or online - even Aunt Millieâs set up. Do it all!
The Internet is fast becoming one of the best and most accepted ways to meet people. They call it online dating, but it should really be called online meeting, since you donât actually date until you physically get together. It is, however, a melting pot of interesting people and opportunities. There are ways to meet people online safely and with great success! Go to The RealtionshipTools.com and get your free book, âTools to Online Datingâ and become a successful dater with no bad dates!
About The Author - As a life coach, Devlyn has made helping people find ways to improve their lives his personal mission and passion. He is a public consultant, a private counselor, an author and creator of Tools To Life. He has hosted his own radio shows called "Tools To Life" and "Love beat" and has been a guest on over 150 various shows. You can read his articles and advice all over the internet. Devlyn has often been referred to as " America 's Leading Life-Coach." For free E-books and more information visit DevlynSteele.com Send Questions To:
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